You find out that you are pregnant and all of the sudden your entire world is turned upside down. If this is your first time pregnant, it is totally fine if you’re scared, thrilled, nervous, excited, anxious and impatient.
It is real. I am a busy mother. But honestly, my steepest learning curve was not my fourth kid, it was my very first. Being a first-time mommy is HARD.
The very first time around …
You have NO idea what you’re doing.
Seriously. I sort of thought I would have a magic infusion of motherly wisdom when I provided birth to my child. Instead, becoming a moms and dad was like an episode of Survivor. It truly sunk in when my child was losing his mind and my mother in-law asked me, “Why is he sobbing?”
You don’t have the knowledge to filter suggestions.
Advice-givers are coming out of the wood. They’re in your grocery shop, they’re at your church and they’re in your family. You used to think that there were social borders around what’s “okay” for individuals to say to you.
There are so many surprises.
Breastfeeding sounds a lot less difficult before you actually have a baby to feed. And after that there’s the manner in which youngsters seem to know that you’ve simply gone to sleep– and make that their ideal time to awaken. No matter the number of stories you were told pre-baby, experience is your true education.
13 TIPS FOR FIRST TIME MOMS
1. Filter what works for you, new moms always get tons of advice. One thing a lot of people told me was to nap when my baby was napping. Everyone baby is different and every mom is different.
2. Don’t be over obsess about germs. Yes, your baby is perfect and you obviously don’t want them to get sick, but sanitizing your hands every time you touch a door handle is a little excessive. Keep your baby away from sick people and try to relax a little. If your baby stays inside all day every day, their immune system won’t build up and they will end up getting sick more.
3. Your husband will love you even if the house is a mess and dinner isn’t ready. On those days, you might have to order a pizza. And that really is no big deal. You are a mom. You are doing a super hard job, and you are rocking it. And your husband knows that.
4. If you feel overwhelmed by staying home all day with your tiny little baby, ask for help! If you need someone to come over for a bit so you can pee or sit at the table and eat without holding your baby, then ask! You are new at this motherhood thing, and it isn’t something that people are pros at overnight.
5. When you are with your baby, be with your baby, not half with them, half on Facebook. Social media is great for some things, and I think it’s a great way to share photos of your baby with family who live far away, but don’t get caught up in wasting time scrolling through photos and statuses of people you haven’t seen since high school.
6. I try to always tell my kids “I love you” before naps or bedtime. I want my kids to always know how I feel about them, and starting early is one way to get it into their little heads!
7. Don’t feel guilty if you love nap time. Babies are incredible and you love them with all of your heart, but I think God gave us naps so that we could take little breaks throughout the day. Nap time is one of the only times in the day that you can do things without holding a baby or without being interrupted, so enjoy it while it lasts.
8. Listen to your heart. I know that sort of sounds dumb, but seriously if you think something is wrong, go check on your baby. Don’t do it if you don’t feel good about doing something someone has suggested. You know your baby better than anyone else, so you are the one who gets to make the final decision on things. If something doesn’t feel right, don’t ignore that feeling. Listen to it.
9. Find a hobby outside of mothering. Motherhood is incredible and the best job I’ve ever had, but if you don’t have a hobby then you are going to get burned out pretty fast. It’s good for your sanity to have something that is “your thing” and I strongly suggest figuring out what that is.
10. Bad days happen, even to moms, and it’s important not to get hung up when they do. Just get through the day, and start the next one off better.
11. If you aren’t as happy as you thought you would be with your new baby, step outside your situation and realize what is happening. Get help before it gets worse. Pay attention to yourself, and if you think you might be struggling with PPD, get help.
12. Love your body. You just pushed a baby out of your body. Go you! Your tummy is going to be baggy and squishy, you are going to feel flabby all over, and it’s going to take time before those varicose veins go away. But be patient, and be grateful for what your amazing body has done. Be nice to it and don’t get down on yourself. And after you get the go-ahead from your doctor, work on losing the baby weight. It will be fine.
Now that I have shared thirteen tips, go back and read number one. If one of these tips doesn’t work for you, I promise I’m not offended. It’s the best thing in the world, and you are going to love it!